I am not a love guru, nor a love expert, I just want to share my personal experience because I am a wife of an overseas Filipino worker. I know there are lots of women who is going through the same experience I had to go through to adjust, hope this article could help you.
Our son is growing up and we have to send him to a good school and at the same time our expenses are continuously increasing and we are aiming to have a house that we could call our own. Because of these reasons, me and my husband decided few months ago that its for time for him to look for a greener pasture. We have finally decided that He would try his luck in Singapore.
The first month was the most difficult part, it’s hard to sleep in bed alone, watch movies alone, stay at home during my rest days and sometimes keep my thoughts to myself since I have no one to go out out with and to talk with. I even miss our small fights and never ending discussions over different things. I have never thought that I it is going to be very hard.
How do we make it work? We never fail to communicate, we talk to Skype almost every day and every time there is a chance. We talk about a lot of things just like when He was here. Trust is our major ingredient to make this long distance relationship work. It is not easy but you have to trust your partner. Being far away from each other is both difficult for you, don’t make it harder by not believing and understanding each other’s situation. Don’t waste time, grab every opportunity that you can get to tell your partner how much you love him/her. Support each other, when your partner feels weak, provide comfort, make your partner that everything is going to be okay. Do not be selfish, relationships are always about giving and taking. Listen, you don’t have to do the all talking all the time during your conversations. Respect, there are times that you might not talk same as your normal routine because he might be tired from his day, instead of throwing a tantrum make him feel that you understand.
It is no easy and I know there are more challenges that we might be facing along the road. What’s important? We are in this journey together and we will continuously love, respect and trust each other. I think these are the keys that would make my long distance relationship work.